I am a firm believer in the outside source. The uninvolved friend with objective opinions and zero motives besides what’s best for you. This is the friend who is not going to give you the answer you want to hear. This is why you call them. When your phone call is over, you’re going to know what to do. Their arguments will either solidify your decision to do the opposite of what they say (sometimes you just need somebody to make you really entertain the alternative before you know you don’t want it) or make you come around to the decision you don’t want to make, but know you should. Either way, this friend is crucial to making you feel comfortable with your final decision. To all my outside sources far and wide, thank you. For taking the time to listen to me flail about my opinions and thoughts that only see the limits. If you ever need your own, you know where to look (hint: it’s here, at firstname.lastname@example.org).